Love is in the air. Or it soon will be with Valentine’s Day just a few days away, so we set out to find amore advice from renowned sex and relationship expert Dr. Laura Berman.  Her show, In The Bedroom with Dr. Laura, can be seen on the Oprah Winfrey Network and she’s also a regular on The Dr. Oz Show. Since everyone can use a tip or two about romance, we dove straight in.

Dr  Laura Berman headshotDo you celebrate Valentine’s Dr. Laura? How?

My husband usually comes up with something special. We do a regular weekly date night so we try to stay creative and think outside the box.

What’s your top tip for romance–be it married, serious dating or just starting out?

You have to make it a priority. People think romance just “happens” but you have to make an effort and be the change you want to see in your relationship.

Valentine’s Day is a few days away. How can I create a special evening?

Try to think of something you wouldn’t normally do. Dinner and a movie can get old, but what about an exciting activity like rock climbing or a trapeze class? Exciting activities such as this can make your heart race and release dopamaine and adrenaline in your body, and this mimics those feelings of butterflies and excitement you had when you first started dating your partner.

Any advice for those new in a relationship?

Think small and sweet. Don’t go overboard or feel like you have to buy a big expensive gift. Something thoughtful and unique will be more appropriate, and it will also show your new partner that you care about their interests and hobbies.

How can music add to a romantic evening?

Music can definitely be a sensual part of a big night out, whether you like classical or rock. All of our senses play a role in creating the experience, and music can help to raise our excitement and add to the mood.

***What songs do you think help set the right mood? ***

It depends on the couple! Some people love the old stand-bys like Al Green or Billie Holliday, but other people love Metallica or Jay-Z. Whatever makes you happy–or makes you want to dance–should fit the bill.

What songs are on your all-time list of most romantic?

At Last, Etta James

Our Love is Here to Stay, Ella Fitzgerald

As Time Goes By, Frank Sinatra

Fever, Peggy Lee

It Had to Be You, Harry Connick Jr

Your Song, Elton John

Always on My Mind, Willie Nelson

Saving all My Love for You, Whitney Houston

Wonderful Tonight, Eric Clapton

When you Say Nothing at All, Alison Kraus

Play Dr. Laura’s Rhapsody playlist here.